Karma, Destiny and Freewill

Let's Talk About the Idea of Karma, Destiny, and Free Will

Short Explanation: Karma is Inevitable — But You Can Somewhat Choose How and Where

For years, many people find themselves in places that systematically drain their spirit. They rationalize toxic relationships, painful environments, and suffocating dynamics by wearing the garb of compassion. “Maybe they’re going through a rough time.” “They didn’t mean it.” “They said sorry, even if it was half-hearted — that’s a big deal for them.”

And so, they stay. Not because there’s no door, but because they believe they’re supposed to endure. They tell themselves that this is maturity, loyalty, spiritual compassion, or love. But it’s not always that. Sometimes, it’s just self-abandonment dressed in spiritual language.

Weeks turn into months, and months into years. The situation doesn’t improve; it worsens. Why? Because life reads our silences louder than our words. By staying where we are consistently hurt, we unconsciously teach the world that we will tolerate it. Karma takes note.

The Deeper Truth About Pain

Now here’s the deeper truth: pain, hurt, and drama are central parts of the human experience. You cannot out-yoga your way out of karma. You cannot meditate it away. Even in the most peaceful forest, in the deepest of sanyasa, karma will find you. Because karma isn’t about where you are or who you’re with — it’s about what your soul needs to experience and evolve.

Where Does Free Will Come In?

So where is the free will? Free will exists not in if you will experience karma, but where and how you will experience it. That is your power. And that choice is your responsibility.

Karma, Destiny & Freewill

In Vedic wisdom, life is seen through the lens of four ashrams — Brahmacharya (studenthood), Grihastha (householder), Vanaprastha (hermit stage), and Sannyasa (renunciation). Each of these is a valid container for karma to unfold. None are escapes. Even a bairaagi, a yogi amidst you, or a sanyasi in a cave must confront inner karma. Even a householder juggling children and career must face theirs. But the container is your choice. The people you allow in your sacred circle — also your choice.

Choosing Your Ashram

For example, I choose solitude, wide open skies, and silence to meet my karmas. That is my ashram because I thoroughly enjoy long quiet days of solitude. You may choose the chitter-chatter of community, a family, friendships, or a companion — that is your Grihastha ashram. Someone else may live theirs through teaching, through service, through travel. None are better than the other. But all will be tested.

Because karmas don’t come from people. People are just the couriers. The package will be delivered — through a partner, a child, a teacher, a stranger, or through your own self. The script is written. But casting, set design, and location? That’s your call.

The Real Question

So the question is not whether you should leave or stay. The real question is: Would you rather receive your lessons in a place that feels sovereign and yours — or in a family setting, social groups, marriage, or relationships? None is better than the other.

You don’t get to escape your karmas. But you do get to choose your battlefield. And sometimes, that one choice makes all the difference.

Karmic Pattern Healing

This leads me to the trend in the spiritual world called Karmic Pattern Healing. Is it possible? Yes and No. But I will write another post about it.

In conclusion, understanding karma, destiny, and free will can empower you to make choices that align with your true self. By recognizing the dynamics of your life, you can navigate your journey with greater awareness.

Remember: Your choices shape your experiences. Embrace the power of free will and create a life that resonates with your soul's journey.

-Shimon